Building resilience means making sure that you have people around you who believe in you unconditionally and hold you to high expectations of being compassionate, generous, and creative.
Fostering resilience means paying attention to these seven skills:-
Competence: notice what you are doing right and give yourself opportunities to develop important skills, so you feel competent. We undermine competence when we don't allow ourselves to recover after a fall, failure is a First Attempt In Learning rather than a disaster!
Confidence: have confidence that you will be able to navigate the world, think outside the box, and recover from challenges.
Connection: connect with other people, work, and communities to offer you the security that you can to stand on your own and develop creative solutions to problems.
Character: have a clear sense of right and wrong and a commitment to integrity.
Contribution: contributing to the well-being of others will mean you receive gratitude rather than condemnation. You will learn that contributing feels good and may therefore more easily turn to others, and do so without shame.
Coping: possessing a variety of healthy coping strategies such as exercising, meditation and eating well means that we will be less likely to turn to dangerous quick fixes when stressed.
Control: understand that privileges and respect are earned through demonstrated responsibility so learn to make wise choices for you regardless of what others say and feel a sense of control.
Remember, actually putting these skills into practice is more important than just talking or reading about them and in doing so you are modelling healthy resilience strategies for those around you! Unsure about how to start with any of the above then talking to a professional can help, so don’t be afraid to reach out to build your resilience !