Top Tips For Relationships With HSPs
It’s that time again! Holidays often mean sun, sea and a bit of romance but if your loved one is also highly sensitive there are a few things you should know!
Some HSPs are more sensitive to physical touch
Some HSPs feel physical sensations deeper than others.
The golden rule is to slow it all down, start gently, and always do so with consent.
We notice everything (really, everything)
If you’re in a bad mood, we’re going to notice.
Trying a new washing powder? We’ll probably notice that too.
HSPs are pretty prone to overstimulation, all of that noticing can exhaust us, so be patient with both our over exuberance and when we flop down.
Like every partner, HSPs need good communication
Not only are HSPs affected by others’ moods, the neural systems within our brains are actually changed by them.
So don’t leave your HSP partner guessing about what is going on with you by not communicating as we are likely to come to own conclusions and stress about the unknown.
We need a balance between personal space and affection
Since our energy ebbs and flows with the intensity of a small volcano, we often need some time to ourselves to enjoy solitude but it doesn’t mean we don’t want to be asked to go out later.
High sensitivity doesn’t automatically mean high maintenance
It makes a world of difference when sensitivity is nurtured and understood.
But not everyone is willing to commit to this long-term work.
It takes a lot of time and energy to figure out your needs as an HSP and learn to communicate them so we do better with people who show empathy and understanding.
The ‘little things’ mean a lot
Impromptu kisses on the forehead, “good morning” scrawled on little notes, our favourite pudding when we’ve had a bad day — all of the little gestures mean more than a grand sweeping one. We often don’t like big surprises so put your effort into everyday treats rather than an unexpected expensive trip somewhere!
Pay attention to all these top tips and who knows maybe your holiday romance will lead to a lifelong passion! I wish you joy!